Because I don't interfere with the people scheduled. I do not refuse what is already at the church. I get in enough fights just trying to say a reverent Mass, since the lay people don't know they are being used as political pawns in an agenda I let it go. I get in enough disagreements over the faith alone, if I try to challenge the other crazyness I will make political enemies of people who don't know it is wrong, because another priest told them they could do it. I am choosing my battles. I don't fight when the housecleaner breaks my property, or when half of my black clothes disappear because she overbleached them and threw them out. (Don't ask why she bleaches blacks.) I didn't fight when I had no food at one rectory and had to drive out to eat on my own, and if I bought things the secratary would throw it out. I didn't even fight when I got in an car accident and had to be life flighted because I got in an accident going to get breakfast, because of no food. I didn't fight when a finance girl told me to 'bite me' because I told her I needed a 1099 for my taxes, nor when my taxes were all messed up because the tax man had to guestimate my income, and included the money paid in insurance, and retirement as income giving me quaterlies greater than my attorney sister. I don't complain about the established liturgical practices and try to rather teach on the reason for the right ones. Like tabernacle in the center, no EM's, the problems with the cups, the nontraditional nature of both species, the use of beautiful vessels and implements.

I am trying to choose my battles, because if you try every one, you get told that you are always complaining. So I let people step on my toes personally alot, and try to look the other way with the liturgical deficencies.

I try not to have conflict all the time, and work with people where they are. You know how many priests have been ripped by their dioceses and gulaged in the psychological places because they have a bunch of people complain about them? And then they have to fight all the battles at once. I try to stick to a few, when the case comes it will not be as many against me, so I can fight it better. (You don't know how fast libs complain, and just a few who are worth money can destroy a priest.) People only write to complain, not to complament, and I learned from seminary that you gotta try to deminish your enemies. (Because there used to be guys who if you offended one, they would all go to their mentors and complain against you, and the seminary would tell those poor guys, well lots of people complained against you. They even had a nickname in seminary. People called them the BVC. The bad values crowd.) Similar things exist in the parish, the only difference is it usually is someone who is very active in the parish, like a DRE, or in charge of the EM's or someone who is wealthy.)

You do not know how fast the libs try to jump on you, when they think you are down. You have to minimize what is in your file, by only sticking to the essential issues.

Good both in content and presentation.

Gestures can be a worthwhile tool that add to the overall effectiveness of a presentation. However, when gestures occur too frequently (with nearly every sentence) they detract rather than add to your effectiveness.